Eupraxsophy

A Sex Worker Comes Out to Her Parents About Her Job

This is a pretty interesting perspective, especially because I rarely see positive accounts about sex work. 

I got into sex work for the same reason a lot of women do: the work I enjoy doesn’t tend to pay well, and I needed a job that would take up as little of my time as possible so I could concentrate on the work that I actually care about doing. For me, that’s writing and drawing, for other women it’s raising children or going to grad school. Initially, it just seemed like a decent way to get by in a culture that devalues the work that women and artists do, so I was surprised, from my first client onward, to realize that I loved the job.

I help men feel comfortable with their own desires and comfortable with the desires of their partners, acting as an educator and as a confidante. I have sex with men who have been deemed unattractive because of their size or disability or age; it’s striking how often I’m asked, because I’ve never been “grossed out” by a client’s body. I get to snoop around other people’s houses and have intimate conversations with strangers, and going to work never feels routine. I occasionally have sex with men I’d sleep with anyway if we’d met under different circumstances. Yes, in the near-decade I’ve been a sex worker, I have encountered a few clients who made me feel uncomfortable or afraid. In that same time, I’ve been made to feel uncomfortable or afraid far more often outside of my work. Welcome to womanhood. Working as an independent escort has only two drawbacks for me, the tediousness of putting up ads and answering calls and emails, and the uncertainty of dry spells that leave me short of work. These happen to be the same problems encountered by all types of freelancers. Prostitution isn’t something I’m doing “for now.” It’s something I plan to do for as long as it suits me.

Obviously, the sex industry isn’t devoid of exploitation, patriarchy, and misogyny, and the author makes this clear later on in the article. But being a sex worker isn’t always a bad thing, as some women choose to take it up for the same practical reasons any of us would have a job. 

1. lolalovessyou reblogged this from eupraxsophy and added:

   Truth

2. callmecrazy-buttttt reblogged this from eupraxsophy and added:

   A fascinating perspective that isn’t often seen from someone who considers the industry a viable career.

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