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Secular humanist, freethinker, progressive, and bibliophile.

When scoundrels, scumbags, and even flagrant sexists are deemed more attractive and desirable than me, I can conclude one of two things: either I really am just that unappealing by comparison, or the dating scene — and by extension society — is truly backwards.

Granted, I’m no cynic, and I generally think well of human nature, but that doesn’t mean I can’t entertain either (or both) theories. I’m tempted to say it’s evolutionary: the stronger, aggressive, and better-looking of our species are the most sought after. But I doubt such an explanation is scientific.

Besides, I mustn’t rule out my own failings either. Who am I to question the standards of so many women, many of whom dared to give me the chance?

Regardless, whether it’s me, society, or both, I’m ultimately disinterested in being with anyone. I would much rather live in solitude than conform to a system that is clearly unfavorable to me. There is something liberating about that. 

I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.

Oscar Wilde (via xzxcuzx-me)

There is a difference between solitude and loneliness. The former, as I see it, is usually voluntary and thus healthier. There’s nothing wrong with being alone if it’s what you want. Time alone allows us to reflect, wonder, and define ourselves. It can get out of hand sometimes, but we need to pause from the hustle and bustle of life and just get to ourselves better on our own. We’ll always need others in some way or another. But we mustn’t depend on them to validate our existence. 

(via nongfuspring)

Solitude is the profoundest fact of the human condition. Man is the only being who knows he is alone.

Octavio Paz in The Labyrinth of Solitude